Action Plan

Experience the concepts and tools presented in the audio CD: “Road Blocks To Recovery". It will give you an overview of how to approach your depression differently.

Experience the concepts and tools presented in the audio CD: “Understand The Wounded Child Within”. It will give you a deeper appreciation of how recognize and begin healing wounded parts of yourself.

Experience developing your own inner coach with the book: “Who’s REALLY Driving Your Bus?” It will take you through the step by step process of how to build your own personal inner coach.

Experience developing the tools and skills needed to build healthy esteem and learn to parent the wounded parts of yourself with the book: “Changing Attitudes In Recovery – A Handbook On Esteem” It will show you how to begin building healthy self-esteem. It will also show you how to begin a loving, parenting relationship with the wounded kids inside.

The Shoes

My alarm went off -- it was Sunday again;
I was tired -- it was my one day to sleep in.
But the guilt I'd have felt the rest of the day
Would have been too much, so I'd go; I'd pray.
 
I showered and shaved, adjusted suit and tie,
Got there and swung into a pew just in time.
Bowing my head in humble prayer
Before I closed my eyes,
I saw that the shoe of the man next to me
Was touching my own and I sighed.
 
With plenty of room on either side,
I thought, "why do our soles have to touch?"
It bothered me so; he was glued to my shoe,
But it didn't seem to bother him much.
 
Then the prayer began: "Heavenly Father," someone said- - 
But I thought, "Does this man with the shoes have no pride?"
They were dusty, worn, scratched end to end. 
What's worse, there were holes on the side!
 
"Thank You for blessings," the prayer went on.
The shoe man said a quiet "amen."
I tried to focus on the prayer,
But my thoughts were on his shoes again.
 
Aren't we supposed to look our best
When walking through that door?
"Well, this certainly isn't it," I thought,
Glancing toward the floor.
 
Then the prayer ended and songs of praise began.
The shoe man was loud, sounding proud as he sang.
He lifted the rafters; his hands raised high;
The Lord surely heard his voice from the sky.

Then the offering was passed; what I threw in was steep. 
The shoe man reached into his pockets, so deep,
And I tried to see what he pulled out to put in,
Then I heard a soft "clink," as when silver hits tin.
 
The sermon bored me to tears--
And no lie--
It was the same for the shoe man,
For tears fell from his eyes.
 
At the end of the service, as is custom here,
We must greet the visitors and show them good cheer. 
But I was moved inside to want to meet this man,
So after the closing, I shook his hand.

He was old, his skin dark, his hair a mess.
thanked him for coming, for being our guest,
He said, "My name's Charlie, glad to meet you, my friend,"
And there were tears in his eyes--but he had a wide grin.

"Let me explain," he said, wiping his eyes.
"I've been coming for months, and you're the first to say, "Hi."
I know I don't look like all the rest,
But I always try to look my best."
"I polish my shoes before my long walk,
But by the time I get here they're as dirty as chalk."
My heart fell to my knees, but I held back my tears,
He continued, "And I must apologize for sitting so near."
"But I know when I get here, I must look a sight.
And I thought . . . if I touched you, our souls might unite."
 
I was silent for a moment knowing anything I said
Would pale in comparison, so I spoke from my heart not my head.
"Oh, you've touched me," I said. "And taught me, in part,
That the best of a man is what's in his heart."

The rest, I thought, this man will never know. . .
How thankful I am that he touched my soul!

Author Unknown